When you notice that a stage has been reached when enmity and threats are about to occur, you should immediately postpone discussion of the subject, until wranglings, disputations, and loud talk vanish, and a propitious time is at hand. (‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Lights of Guidance, p. 178)
Recently I was talking to someone who wanted to speak more kindly to her family members, upon whom she was dumping her rage and frustration. She wondered what advice I could give her and all I thought of was to use “words as mild as milk”, which I attributed to the Bahá’í Writings, and it really seemed to have an effect on her. I thanked God for this teaching opportunity. I wish I’d thought of this one, though, as it’s a lot more specific.
Immediately postpone the discussion: walk away, change the subject, don’t add any more fuel to the fire. Wait for a propitious time to come back to it: perhaps it will be as quickly as after taking a deep breath and saying some prayer together. Perhaps it will be after you have something to eat, or get some much needed sleep, or after you take your problems to God and asking Him to find a solution.
Sometimes people just have no reserves when they are hungry, angry, lonely or tired or sometimes people think they have to solve the problems themselves and forget to give them to God.
Knowing I can walk away from discussions that are getting heated, I am grateful!
What jumped out for you as you read through today’s meditation? I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!
If you liked this meditation, you might also like my book Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness