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Welcome to the Month of Questions 172!

In this issue – Depression

A Cure for Depression 

Can We Defeat Depression? 

Dealing with Depression through the Fire Tablet

Dealing with Sorrow and Grief – Learning How to Let Go 

Depression, Disintegration and the Divine Elixir

Learning How to Be Happy 

One Bahá’í’s Story 

Series of Articles on Self-Pity

Series of Articles on Suffering 

Surviving Spiritual Depression

The Dark Night of the Soul 

Will the Sorrow and Pain Ever Stop? 

Featured Story:

While the following story is not from the Bahá’i Faith, it always reminds me of ‘Abdu’l-Baha. Unfortunately I can’t find the author, to give credit. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

Just Clay!
Author Unknown

A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her collection, so she went inside to pick up the teacup, and as the story goes the teacup spoke and said:

“I want you to know that I have not always looked like this. It took the process of pain to bring me to this point. You see, there was a time when I was just clay and the master came and he pounded me and he squeezed me and he kneaded me and I screamed: “STOP THAT”. But he just smiled and he said, “Not yet”.

Then he took me and put me on the wheel and I went round and round and round and round … and while I was spinning and getting dizzier and dizzier I screamed again and I said, “Please get me off this thing … please get me off!!!”

And the master was looking at me and he was smiling, as he said, “Not yet”.
Then he took me and walked toward the oven and he shut the door and turned up the heat and I could see him through the window of the oven and it was getting hotter and hotter and I thought, “He’s going to burn me to death”.

And I started pounding on the inside of the oven and I said “Master, let me out, let me out, let me out”, and I could see that he was smiling as he said “Not yet”.

Then he opened the door and I was fresh and free and he took me out of the oven and he put me on the table and then he got some paint and a paintbrush. And he started dabbing me and making swirls all over me and I started to gag and I said: “Master, stop it … stop it … stop it please … you’re making me gag” and he just smiled as he said “Not yet”.

Then very gently he picked me up again and he started walking toward the oven and I said, “Master, NO! Not again, pleeeeease”. He opened the oven door and he slipped me inside and he shut the door and this time he turned the heat up twice as hot as before and I thought. “He’s going to kill me”, and I looked through the window of the oven and I started to pound saying, “Master … Master, please let me out … please let me out … let me out… let me out”. And I could see that he was smiling, but I also noticed a tear trickle down his cheek as I watched him mouth the words.
“Not yet!”

Just as I thought I was about to die, the door opened and he reached in ever so gently and took me out, fresh and free and he went and placed me on a high shelf and he said: “There, I have created what I intended. Would you like to see yourself?” I said “Yes”, so he handed me a mirror and I looked and I looked again and I said, “That’s not me, I’m just a lump of clay” And he said: “Yes, that IS you, but it took the process of pain to bring you to this place. “You see, had I not worked you when you were clay, then you would have dried up. If I had not subjected you to the stress of the wheel, you would have crumbled. If I had not put you into the heat of the oven you would have cracked. If I had not painted you there would be no color in your life. But, it was the second oven that gave you the strength to endure. And now you are everything that I intended you to be – from the beginning.”

And I, the tea cup, heard myself saying something I never thought I would hear myself saying: “Master, forgive me, I did not trust you, I thought you were going to harm me, I did not know you had a glorious future and a hope for me. I was too shortsighted, but I want to thank you. I want to thank you for suffering. I want to thank you for the process of pain. Here I am! I give you myself – fill me, pour from me, use me as you see fit. I really want to be a vessel that brings you glory within my life”

I’d like to conclude with a quote from the Bahá’í Writings:

Naturally there will be periods of distress and difficulty, and even severe tests; but if the person turns firmly towards the Divine Manifestation, studies carefully His spiritual teachings and receives the blessings of the Holy Spirit, he will find that in reality these tests and difficulties have been the gifts of God to enable him to grow and develop.  Thus you might look upon your own difficulties in the path of service. They are the means of your spirit growing and developing. You will suddenly find that you have conquered many of the problems which upset you, and then you will wonder why they should have troubled you at all. (Shoghi Effendi, Living the Life, pp. 35-36.)

Featured Prayer:

Prayer to Overcome Depression

O God, my God! Have mercy then upon my helpless state, my poverty, my misery, my abasement! Give me to drink from the generous cup of Thy grace and forgiveness, stir me with the sweet scents of Thy love, gladden my bosom with the light of Thy knowledge, purify my soul with the mysteries of Thy oneness, raise me to life with the gentle breeze that cometh from the gardens of Thy mercy—till I sever myself from all else but Thee, and lay hold of the hem of Thy garment of grandeur, and consign to oblivion all that is not Thee, and be companioned by the sweet breathings that waft during these Thy days, and attain unto faithfulness at Thy Threshold of Holiness, and arise to serve Thy Cause, and to be humble before Thy loved ones, and, in the presence of Thy favoured ones, to be nothingness itself. Verily art Thou the Helper, the Sustainer, the Exalted, the Most Generous. (‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Selections from the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 4-5)

Featured Video:

Life Continued: Defeating Depression
Produced by Rainn Wilson’s SoulPancake and MTV 

A one-hour documentary for MTV, ‘Life Continued: Defeating Depression’ aims to empower viewers who are facing emotional struggles to reach out and get help. The special profiles two courageous millennials who suffer with depression and suicidal thoughts, but are back from the brink and living life to the fullest.

Sarah Virginia Sparkes has battled body image issues since childhood and anorexia since her pre-teen years. She is working with a counselor to live a healthy and happy life.

Devin Price, a college athlete in Indiana, has struggled with depression since high school. Prior to filming, he came out of the closet to his friends and now worries whether or not they will accept him.

Both Sarah and Devin hope that by sharing their stories, they will help others living with depression. The Jed Foundation partnered with SoulPancake on ‘Life Continued,’ which aired on World Mental Health Day. The documentary has won both an Image and Prism Award.

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Featured Books:

Why Me? A Spiritual Guide to Growing Through Tests by Justice St. Rain

Personal tests can either draw people towards God, or push them away. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge one way or another to make the difference. With so many people facing severe personal, financial and health challenges, it is more important than ever that we make sure that the nudge is in the right direction. This book has already helped thousands of people discover the hidden gifts behind the tests they are facing.

Why Me explains in a simple, profound and often humorous way, why a kind and loving God will give us tests in order to help us develop our full spiritual potential.

Starting with the metaphor of a gardener pruning a rose bush, it goes on to explain the four kinds of tests, the role of emotions in identifying tests, and the spiritual tools we can use to pass tests with flying colors.

It is selling like there is no tomorrow everywhere from Australia to England. Non-Baha’i friends tell me that they have read it multiple times, and therapists recommend it to their clients.

For more information and to buy the book 

5 Steps to a Happy, Healthy, Wealthy YOU!: Through Music, The Mind And Meditation

Have you ever tried to change your thoughts to create the life you long for, but get overwhelmed by countless other thoughts racing in every direction? Have you tried to reach your dreams but become discouraged because they are not quickly realized? If so, you are not alone.

So many people try and struggle to create the life they desire in their heart of hearts, but fail for one simple reason. They have left out the most essential step: Meditation—the practice of making conscious contact with your true self, your soul—YOU. From that beautiful and powerful dimension of your inner spirit, which is your personal connection to the source of all being, all things are possible.

This book is a holistic approach to happiness, health, wealth, and manifesting your best life. The concepts and practices that you learn here build upon experience and knowledge that you already have, but may not have fully recognized yet. So, you are already primed and ready to succeed.

Order your copy today! 

Featured Coach:

Diana Gale is a therapist, Certified in Inner Spirit Therapy, which can help with: smoking, alcohol, drug, gambling & other addictions, anger management, depression, anxiety, allergies, asthma, control issues, Bi-Polar disorder, OCD, fears & phobias, brain damage, PTSD, ADD/ADHD, memory issues, marriage & relationship difficulties, impotence, migraines, nail biting, Anorexia & Bulimia, digestive disorders, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue syndrome, bladder issues, TMJ, ulcers, high blood pressure, Restless Leg syndrome, immune & autoimmune disorders, abuse, death of a loved one, childhood trauma, aging issues, guilt, rejection, reading & math issues, school & test anxiety, insomnia, grief, job loss, nightmares, stress relief, stuttering, weight and body issues, writer’s block, etc…

Diana facilitates an awakening to physical, mental and emotional wellness through dialogue with the Higher Self without detailed disclosure or years of talk-therapy. Inner Spirit therapy proves that recovery does not have to be a long, painful and expensive process. It is highly effective at triggering natural emotional, physical, and mental wellness by tapping our inmost strength, truth, and wisdom — that part of us that we think of as the ‘True Self’.

This relaxing technique will help you to create real and lasting improvement in all the ways that you approach life. A recent Master’s Thesis revealed that Inner Spirit Therapy reduces depression, anxiety and stress levels by 50-100%. 87% percent of Study participants reported normal levels of depression, anxiety and stress upon completion of therapy.

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Featured Business:

Sound Health International 

I’d like to introduce you to Dr. Benjamin Koen, author of one of this month’s featured books. A number of years ago, I was within a couple of months of leaving for a pioneer post in Xiamen, China, and was unable to go due to health problems. Fast forward a few years later, when I met Benjamin and learned that he and his family were pioneering to (guess where?). Xiamen! It was as if Baha’u’llah was showing me that someone was able to go in my stead! I’ve followed his career with interest, and was happy to hear he’d launched his business Sound Health International. 

Benjamin is a critically acclaimed musician, author, speaker, researcher, educator, life transformation and wellness coach, and music-sound healer. He provides experiences, education, training, and products to help you improve your life in the areas of Body, Mind, Spirit, Emotions, and Relationships.

He uses a holistic approach to health, wellbeing, helping you to create your ideal life. His programs are based on cutting-edge research with thought leaders, visionaries, scientists, physicians, doctors, healers, artists, musicians, and people of capacity and valuable experience to educate and inspire people to improve their lives and the lives of those around them.

One of my favorite products of his, is the CD “Songs From Green Mountain”, a collection of meditative music with sung and spoken prayers and texts from the Bahá´í Writings. It features the end-blown bamboo flute called the xiao (pictured above) as well as the cedarwood flute, quena (Peruvian wooden flute), bansuri (Bamboo flute of India), tenor and soprano saxophones, bass clarinet, rain sticks (from Brazil and Chile), Taoist meditation bowls from China, Tibetan cymbals, African wooden chimes, wind caller, Mexican frame drum, djembe (African drum), voice, low multiphonic voice, streams, waterfalls and rain–all recorded live.

For more information 

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To read his blog 

For a list of his books 

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Our Readers Write:

Thank you for an excellent “Monthly”. (Clare Stodden)

I just browsed the articles in your monthly newsletter and thought you might appreciate the attached document [Called Why November 26?] I put together a few years ago. I send my apologies in advance if you already have seen what it contains. (David Bowie)

My reply,

David’s suggested article was posted on my blog. You can read it here

The day after it was posted, he sent me this email:

Carol and I had a chuckle this morning when I received the article from a friend in South Africa, who got it from a friend in Singapore who got it from the Thai Baha’i listserve who got it from your blog. Isn’t modern communication wonderful!

Ya Baha’u’l-Abha!