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Welcome to the Month of Sovereignty 171!

Stack of my books

 Here’s a shameless bit of self-promotion!

 It sure feels good to see my name on 17 books!

 They aren’t available for sale just yet. These books have gone to George Ronald:

  • The Bahá’í Marriage Manual
  • Overcoming Anxiety and Depression
  • The Courage to be Chaste in a Sexual World

I’ve just received the results of the Literature Review for the others; and still need to make some changes, but I’ll keep you posted! In the meantime, the eBook version of each of them is still available as a free download from my site!

In this issue

 Anger and a Prayer, One Day at a Time

25 Ways to Let Go of Anger and Bitterness

Dealing with Anger in Marriage

Anger to Wildness

Anger Burns the Liver 

Showing Kindness to a Liar, Traitor or Thief 

Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness

When Marriage Becomes Abusive 

Married to Dr. Jekyll 

Visiting Hours

Featured Story:

Why do we Shout in Anger?

By Pablo Coelho 

A master asked his disciples:

‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

The disciples thought for a while, and one of them said:

‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’

But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’

The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.

Finally he explained:

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the master asked:

‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’

And he concluded:

‘When they love each other even more, what happens?

‘They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.

‘Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’


Featured Prayer:

Prayer to Detach from Anger

 O God, my God! Have mercy then upon my helpless state, my poverty, my misery, my abasement! Give me to drink from the generous cup of Thy grace and forgiveness, stir me with the sweet scents of Thy love, gladden my bosom with the light of Thy knowledge, purify my soul with the mysteries of Thy oneness, raise me to life with the gentle breeze that cometh from the gardens of Thy mercy—till I sever myself from all else but Thee, and lay hold of the hem of Thy garment of grandeur, and consign to oblivion all that is not Thee, and be companioned by the sweet breathings that waft during these Thy days, and attain unto faithfulness at Thy Threshold of Holiness, and arise to serve Thy Cause, and to be humble before Thy loved ones,   and, in the presence of Thy favoured ones, to be nothingness itself. Verily art Thou the Helper, the Sustainer, the Exalted, the Most Generous. (‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Selections from the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 4-5)

Featured Book:




The Secret of Happiness by Justice St. Rain, combines dozens of quotations from a variety of sources with the distilled essence of his book “The Secret of Emotions“.   This lovely gift edition has already sold over 12,000 copies worldwide. Whether you would like a clear and simple understanding of the nature of happiness, or need a gift for a friend who is feeling down, this easy-to-read and beautifully-formatted book is exactly what you are looking for. It’s 4×6 size fits nicely in a greeting card envelop so you can send it to friends on happy occasions.

Featured Video:


When you’re angry, what better way to calm your mood than with the Fire Tablet? In it, you will see how Bahá’u’lláh too was angry at a lot of injustices he had to endure.

This month’s music selection is a partnership between Canadian singer-songwriters Karim Rushdy (the voice) and Arlen Yanch (the music)





Let Bahá’u’lláh’s conversation with God wash over and heal your anger and pain!

Arlen Yanch:

To listen to more of his music 

To follow him on Facebook

To find him on Twitter 

To find him on Linkedin 

To read more about him from his home-town newspaper! Spruce Grove Native Arlen Yanch Celebrates Diversity Through Music 

Karim Rushdy

Home Page 

To listen to his music on YouTube

To follow him on Facebook 

To follow him on Twitter

To find him on Linkedin

Featured Coach:


Phillipe Copeland

Phillipe Copeland is a social worker and clinical assistant professor in the social work and theology program at Boston University’s School of Social Work. His interests include social justice and the impact of mass-incarceration on mental health. He provides clinical consultation to Public Defense Attorneys in developing approaches to legal defense of indigent clients; and provides individual and family therapy for children, youth and adults.   His passion is in supporting the most vulnerable in their efforts to recover from mental illness and addiction.

For 7 years, Phillipe was the author of the blog, “Baha’i Thought” which offered commentary on issues of religion, society, and culture based on the teachings of the Baha’i Faith; and is currently a contributing scholar to “State of Formation”, a multi-author blog founded by the Journal for Interreligious Dialogue.

Home Page 

Journal of Inter-Religious Studies Blog 

Bahá’í Thought 



Featured Business:

With Ayyam-i-Ha fast approaching, you might want to consider buying some prayer beads for friends, family, children and even to treat yourself!

Nightingale Prayer Beads offers beautifully-designed Bahai Prayer Beads handcrafted from the finest materials. They offer a wide range of prices, from the more expensive semi-precious gemstones and pearls and shells, to less expensive prayer beads made of glass, wood, and other materials.

They also offer inexpensive prayer bead kits  and free download instructions for “How To Make Prayer Beads”.

One of their favorite is their Come Pray With Me line, made for children. These prayer beads are intended to aid parents in sharing the bounty of prayer with their children. Children love Bahai prayer beads, and eagerly adopt their use.

Our Readers Write:

Thanks for this compilation of articles Susan (Sandra Briand)

Thank you. I especially liked the smoking story by Colby Ives. So many articles to read … (Lynn Wright)

As a retired drinker, I pray for the day when, as you stated in the article on the future of alcohol, that it goes the way of the cigarette. (John DesLauriers)

You are doing amazing work and making an enormous contribution to society. All of this material is available for every one but you make so conveniently accessible. May you be strengthened to keep up your wonderful service. (Lena Scallion)

Marvelous as always. Thank you, Susan. This is a difficult subject, and the material and perspectives you have provided will be of much assistance to my Junior Youth group. We are currently discussing the last few lessons of “Glimmerings of Hope”, and this material will add much depth to our understanding of it. (Marzia Dalal)

I replied:

Thanks to all of you for the encouragement! That (and prayer) is what keeps me going!