You ask in your letter for guidance on the implications of the prohibition on backbiting and more specifically whether, in moments of anger or depression, the believer is permitted to turn to his friends to unburden his soul and discuss his problem in human relations. Normally, it is possible to describe the situation surrounding a problem and seek help and advice in resolving it, without necessarily mentioning names. The individual believer should seek to do this, whether he is consulting a friend, Bahá’í or non-Bahá’í, or whether the friend is consulting him. (From a letter written on behalf of the Universal House of Justice, to an individual believer, Sept. 23, 1975)
I have a situation brewing in my life this week, where someone took offence at something I did that had nothing to do with her. She’s been flaming me with multiple viscous attacks via text messages, social media posts and when I blocked her, via anonymous posts on Messenger. It’s been very distressing. I’ve been so tempted to tell my side of the story to people who know both of us and with God’s help, I’ve held my tongue and I am grateful! But I have needed to unburden myself and needed to find the right person to help me learn how to block people, and again, God sent me the right people.
Dealing with difficult situations needn’t be difficult with God on our side. He wants to be our problem-solver and best friend. I think He sends us these situations in order to strengthen our relationship with Him, and to help us grow the virtues we need. This week, I’m choosing justice, to protect myself from the poison of slander and at the same time, forgiving her, loving her and praying for her. It feels like healthy spiritual growth.
Knowing how to unburden my soul and seek help and advice in a way that isn’t backbiting, I am grateful!
What jumped out for you as you read today’s meditation? I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!
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