The world today is submerged, amongst other things, in an over-exaggeration of the importance of physical love, and a dearth of spiritual values. In as far as possible the believers should try to realign this and rise above the level of their fellow-men who are, typical of all decadent periods in history, placing so much over-emphasis on the purely physical side of mating. Outside of their normal, legitimate married life they should seek to establish bonds of comradeship and love which are eternal and founded on the spiritual life of man, not on his physical life. (Shoghi Effendi, Bahá’í Marriage and Family Life, p. 14)
This is one of the hardest quotes for many people inside and outside the Faith to understand, that our spiritual life is more important than sex. I find it hard to rise above the level of those around me, who I fear are judging me for my “holier than thou” attitude. This creates a barrier between me and other people, because I tend to avoid movies, TV shows, books and magazines that promote sex and stay away from those who who indulge in pornography and extra-marital sex. I don’t mean to be judging them. I mean only to use discernment in how to keep my own thoughts and actions pure. This leads to a lot of loneliness’ and isolation. I’m serving in an inactive cluster so find it hard to maintain relationships with like-minded people.
After a life of moving every two years, I’m coming to realize that I don’t have the ability to seek to establish friendships founded on spiritual life and I’m learning that this is a capacity I can develop, and find true love with my “best lover” and myself first, so that I have that love to give out to others.
It’s OK to rise above the level of my neighbors and put my faith in the importance of maintaining spiritual values, and I am grateful!
What jumped out for you as you read today’s meditation? I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!
This is a very sensitive and much misunderstood topic in the Baha’i Faith and it’s one of the areas where we’re under attack. Sincere Baha’is want to know how to answer questions knowledgeably when they arise in teaching situations. There are so many negative articles on the internet that it’s hard to wade through them all to find a true and compassionate look at this topic.
Let’s look first at what the House of Justice has recently had to say on this topic:
Just before Mrs C left the household of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá in ‘Akka, ‘He came into her room to say farewell, and seating Himself by the window looked off upon the sea in silence for so long a time that His guest began to wonder if He had forgotten her presence. ‘Then at length He turned to her and said, with that eager speech that is one of His peculiarities: “Mrs C when you go back to New York talk to people about the love of God. People in the world do not talk enough about God. Their conversation is filled with trivialities, and they forget the most momentous subjects. Yet is you speak to them of God they are happy, and presently they open their hearts to you. Often you can not mention this glorious Revelation, for their prejudice would interfere, and they would not listen. But you will find that you can always talk to them about the love of God.”’ ‘Then He went away, and Mrs C sat a long time in the gathering darkness, while the glory of the sun descended upon the glittering waters of the Mediterranean. The fragrant shadows seemed to echo softly with the last words of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá: “You will find that you can always talk to them about the love of God.”’ (Honnold, Annamarie, Vignettes from the Life of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 163)
Prayer for Distress and Anguish
O Lord, my God and my Haven in my distress! My Shield and my Shelter in my woes! My Asylum and Refuge in time of need and in my loneliness my Companion! In my anguish my Solace, and in my solitude a loving Friend! The Remover of the pangs of my sorrows and the Pardoner of my sins! Wholly unto Thee do I turn, fervently imploring Thee with all my heart, my mind and my tongue, to shield me from all that runs counter to Thy will in this, the cycle of Thy divine unity, and to cleanse me of all defilement that will hinder me from seeking, stainless and unsullied, the shade of the tree of Thy grace. Have mercy, O Lord, on the feeble, make whole the sick, and quench the burning thirst. Gladden the bosom wherein the fire of Thy love doth smolder, and set it aglow with the flame of Thy celestial love and spirit. Robe the tabernacles of divine unity with the vesture of holiness, and set upon my head the crown of Thy favor. Illumine my face with the radiance of the orb of Thy bounty, and graciously aid me in ministering at Thy holy threshold. Make my heart overflow with love for Thy creatures and grant that I may become the sign of Thy mercy, the token of Thy grace, the promoter of concord amongst Thy loved ones, devoted unto Thee, uttering Thy commemoration and forgetful of self but ever mindful of what is Thine. O God, my God! Stay not from me the gentle gales of Thy pardon and grace, and deprive me not of the wellsprings of Thine aid and favor. Neath the shade of Thy protecting wings let me nestle, and cast upon me the glance of Thine all-protecting eye. Loose my tongue to laud Thy name amidst Thy people, that my voice may be raised in great assemblies and from my lips may stream the flood of Thy praise. Thou art, in all truth, the Gracious, the Glorified, the Mighty, the Omnipotent.
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Bahá’í Prayers, p. 29-30)
This month, we’re featuring the music of Tony Valadez.
To listen to a prayer he created for the Feast of Perfection
Here are the words for those who want to sing along!
O army of God! The time hath come for the effects and perfections of the Most Great Name to be made manifest in this excellent age, so as to establish, beyond any doubt, that this era is the era of Bahá’u’lláh, and this age is distinguished above all other ages. (Abdu’l-Baha, Selections from the Writings of Abdu’l-Baha, p. 71)
I don’t want to be Tahirih: Homosexuality in the Bahá’í Religion in Theology and Practice
This book by Hanna A. Langer was originally written as a Master’s Degree thesis at the Interfaculty Programme for the Study of Religion at Munich University. In it she asks 4 questions:
How do homosexuals themselves interpret and understand the core writings?
How do they apply this understanding to their personal lives?
How do they experience community life within the Baha’i Faith?
What is the Institutions’ and believers’ approach towards them?
The book takes a look at different narratives which show that “the homosexuals” are not a homogenous group of people who share common goals or a common understanding of the writings but instead are as diverse as the broader community is. Therefore some people tell about their efforts to live in accordance with the religious law and abstain from sexual relationships, others are welcomed with their same-sex partners and others are shunned. Not everyone experienced a welcoming atmosphere within his or her community, but the book does neither try to sugar coat nor to dramatize. The author believes the story of homophobia in the Baha’i Faith needs to be shared worldwide, and Hannah’s book is helpful to those who feel they are still being treated as second class citizens.
I’ve written a book on homosexuality, of which the House of Justice has said:
The House of Justice has indicated in the past its preference that a compilation of materials on the subject of homosexuality not be published. The House of Justice reaffirms this previous policy and asks you not to publish this booklet. However, you are entirely free to reproduce and use the material in courses and deepenings facilitated by you. (Universal House of Justice to the author, 17 February 2005).
If you are interested in reading the book, write and tell me how you will use it and if I feel you meet this criteria, I will be happy to send you a copy.
Mary K. Radpour
Mary K. Radpour is a psychotherapist with more than 30 years’ experience and extensive training in a variety of therapeutic modalities. She is an adjunct professor at the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga, teaching in the areas of psychology, social work and women’s studies; is a founding member of the Baha’i Association of Mental Health Professionals and a board member of the Baha’i Network on AIDS, Sexuality, Addictions, and Abuse. www.bnasaa.org She has served as an Auxiliary Board Member and is a Faculty Member of the Wilmette Institute.
She is a frequent speaker at Bahá’í schools and conferences, on the topics of spirituality, sexuality, and mental health and has worked with individuals, families and groups, focusing on these and the following issues:
Post-trauma symptoms, resulting from physical, emotional and sexual abuse
Depression and dysthymia
Family and Relationship conflicts
Gay and lesbian relationships
Sexual issues, such as gender confusion, sexual addiction, and sexual confusion resulting from rape or abuse
In addition to being a Certified Mediator, Mrs. Radpour has trained in the following therapeutic modalities:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Family systems and strategic family systems therapy
She prefers to work in person, but does offer telephone consultations which focus on problem-solving, with individuals who are feeling distressed related to situations or circumstances in their current lives.
Jeffrey Reddick is a Baha’i filmmaker best known for creating the Final Destination horror film franchise, which spawned four successful sequels as well as comic books and novels. Final Destination centers on a character who has a premonition of a terrible accident that will kill numerous people. While they escape from the scene of the accident before it happens, they are later killed in a series of complex, bizarre accidents. The series is noteworthy amongst others in the horror genre in that the “villain” of the movies is not the stereotypical slasher, but Death itself whose intent is to claim the lives of those who manage to escape their fates.
Jeffrey is also known for a thriller called Tamara; the story of an unattractive girl, who is picked on by her peers and returns after her death as a sexy seductress to exact revenge; and the remake of George Romero’s classic, Day of the Dead, where a small Colorado town is overrun by the flesh hungry dead and a small group of survivors try to escape in a last ditch effort to stay alive.
Recently he produced his first 10 minute short, directed with Rainn Wilson, called Good Samaritan which deals with the consequences of not helping someone in need and overcoming your fears to do the right thing. It’s an intense horror short about a man who gets brutally assaulted while witnesses stand by and do nothing. There is some is some scary and intense imagery that may not be appropriate for everyone. But if you want to see a creepy morality tale you can see it here:
I liked your story and compilation on divorce. What struck me personally as being a little unusual was the following description after the compilation: “Zia Holte: This month, we look at the music of Zia Holte – a singer songwriter with a clear, versatile, vocal range from sex kitten to mother next-door. Her voice can be heard on audiobooks, documentaries, jingles, movie trailers, radio, television and videogames.” I was wondering why Zia’s range needed to include sex kitten. You wrote the book, “The Courage to be Chaste in a Sexual World”. Doesn’t the description “sex kitten” belong in the sexual world? Is it an apt description for a human being? Just curious. It did occur to me, of course, that the description wasn’t written by you, and that you had just copied it off somewhere. (Sarmad Garmroud)
Good catch Sarmad! I’m embarrassed I didn’t catch that myself – was hurrying to get it done, with my mind in several places. I’ve deleted that whole phrase. Thanks for bringing it to my attention!
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