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How to Feel Spiritually Connected During Sex

In this video, Janna gives you some ideas on how to grow your Baha’i marriage by looking at the role of your soul in your sexual relationship.

Have a watch and post your comment below.

Janna Denton-Howes is a Marriage Coach whose passion is to help couples get unstuck and move powerfully towards the vision of true Baha’i marriage.  If you liked this video, you can visit her site; read her blog and watch her other videos.

Top 3 Challenges in Marriage

In this video, Janna covers the following issues:

  1. Colicky babies
  2. Togetherness/Time Apart
  3. Pornography

Have a look and post your comments below.

 

 

Janna Denton-Howes is a Marriage Coach whose passion is to help couples get unstuck and move powerfully towards the vision of true Baha’i marriage.  If you liked this video, you can visit her site; read her blog and watch her other videos.

Newsletter – on Homosexuality

In this issue – Homosexuality

This is a very sensitive and much misunderstood topic in the Baha’i Faith and it’s one of the areas where we’re under attack.  Sincere Baha’is want to know how to answer questions knowledgeably when they arise in teaching situations.  There are so many negative articles on the internet that it’s hard to wade through them all to find a true and compassionate look at this topic.

Let’s look first at what the House of Justice has recently had to say on this topic:

Universal House of Justice on Homosexuality 19 April 2013

Universal House of Justice on Homosexuality 23 April 2013

Universal House of Justice on Homosexuality 9 May 2014 

Universal House of Justice on Transsexuality 

Universal House of Justice on Homosexuality and Civil Rights

Universal House of Justice on Homosexuality: Biological, or a Learned Behavior?

I believe the following authors have done a good job in tackling this topic and recommend these articles to you.

Question Time

Homosexuality and Civil Rights

The Gay Marriage Issue

Homosexuality again, thanks to Obama

Tom Price Talk on Homosexuality

Being Baha’i and Gay

My BNASAA Story

Featured Story:

Talk to them of the Love of God

Just before Mrs C left the household of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá in ‘Akka, ‘He came into her room to say farewell, and seating Himself by the window looked off upon the sea in silence for so long a time that His guest began to wonder if He had forgotten her presence. ‘Then at length He turned to her and said, with that eager speech that is one of His peculiarities: “Mrs C when you go back to New York talk to people about the love of God. People in the world do not talk enough about God. Their conversation is filled with trivialities, and they forget the most momentous subjects. Yet is you speak to them of God they are happy, and presently they open their hearts to you. Often you can not mention this glorious Revelation, for their prejudice would interfere, and they would not listen. But you will find that you can always talk to them about the love of God.”’ ‘Then He went away, and Mrs C sat a long time in the gathering darkness, while the glory of the sun descended upon the glittering waters of the Mediterranean. The fragrant shadows seemed to echo softly with the last words of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá: “You will find that you can always talk to them about the love of God.”’ (Honnold, Annamarie, Vignettes from the Life of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 163)

Featured Prayer:

Prayer for Distress and Anguish

O Lord, my God and my Haven in my distress! My Shield and my Shelter in my woes! My Asylum and Refuge in time of need and in my loneliness my Companion! In my anguish my Solace, and in my solitude a loving Friend! The Remover of the pangs of my sorrows and the Pardoner of my sins! Wholly unto Thee do I turn, fervently imploring Thee with all my heart, my mind and my tongue, to shield me from all that runs counter to Thy will in this, the cycle of Thy divine unity, and to cleanse me of all defilement that will hinder me from seeking, stainless and unsullied, the shade of the tree of Thy grace. Have mercy, O Lord, on the feeble, make whole the sick, and quench the burning thirst. Gladden the bosom wherein the fire of Thy love doth smolder, and set it aglow with the flame of Thy celestial love and spirit. Robe the tabernacles of divine unity with the vesture of holiness, and set upon my head the crown of Thy favor. Illumine my face with the radiance of the orb of Thy bounty, and graciously aid me in ministering at Thy holy threshold. Make my heart overflow with love for Thy creatures and grant that I may become the sign of Thy mercy, the token of Thy grace, the promoter of concord amongst Thy loved ones, devoted unto Thee, uttering Thy commemoration and forgetful of self but ever mindful of what is Thine. O God, my God! Stay not from me the gentle gales of Thy pardon and grace, and deprive me not of the wellsprings of Thine aid and favor. Neath the shade of Thy protecting wings let me nestle, and cast upon me the glance of Thine all-protecting eye. Loose my tongue to laud Thy name amidst Thy people, that my voice may be raised in great assemblies and from my lips may stream the flood of Thy praise. Thou art, in all truth, the Gracious, the Glorified, the Mighty, the Omnipotent.
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Bahá’í Prayers, p. 29-30)

Featured Video:

Tony Valadez

This month, we’re featuring the music of Tony Valadez.

To listen to a prayer he created for the Feast of Perfection

Here are the words for those who want to sing along!

O army of God! The time hath come for the effects and perfections of the Most Great Name to be made manifest in this excellent age, so as to establish, beyond any doubt, that this era is the era of Bahá’u’lláh, and this age is distinguished above all other ages.   (Abdu’l-Baha, Selections from the Writings of Abdu’l-Baha, p. 71)

To listen to his other songs, visit his YouTube channel

Featured Book:

 

I don’t want to be Tahirih: Homosexuality in the Bahá’í Religion in Theology and Practice

This book by Hanna A. Langer was originally written as a Master’s Degree thesis at the Interfaculty Programme for the Study of Religion at Munich University.  In it she asks 4 questions:

  1. How do homosexuals themselves interpret and understand the core writings?
  2. How do they apply this understanding to their personal lives?
  3. How do they experience community life within the Baha’i Faith?
  4. What is the Institutions’ and believers’ approach towards them?

The book takes a look at different narratives which show that “the homosexuals” are not a homogenous group of people who share common goals or a common understanding of the writings but instead are as diverse as the broader community is. Therefore some people tell about their efforts to live in accordance with the religious law and abstain from sexual relationships, others are welcomed with their same-sex partners and others are shunned. Not everyone experienced a welcoming atmosphere within his or her community, but the book does neither try to sugar coat nor to dramatize.  The author believes the story of homophobia in the Baha’i Faith needs to be shared worldwide, and Hannah’s book is helpful to those who feel they are still being treated as second class citizens.

For more information and to buy the book

Questions and Answers on Homosexuality

By Susan Gammage

I’ve written a book on homosexuality, of which the House of Justice has said:

The House of Justice has indicated in the past its preference that a compilation of materials on the subject of homosexuality not be published.  The House of Justice reaffirms this previous policy and asks you not to publish this booklet.  However, you are entirely free to reproduce and use the material in courses and deepenings facilitated by you.  (Universal House of Justice to the author, 17 February 2005).

If you are interested in reading the book, write and tell me how you will use it and if I feel you meet this criteria, I will be happy to send you a copy.

Featured Coach:

Mary K. Radpour

Mary K. Radpour is a psychotherapist with more than 30 years’ experience and extensive training in a variety of therapeutic modalities. She is an adjunct professor at the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga, teaching in the areas of psychology, social work and women’s studies; is a founding member of the Baha’i Association of Mental Health Professionals and a board member of the Baha’i Network on AIDS, Sexuality, Addictions, and Abuse. www.bnasaa.org She has served as an Auxiliary Board Member and is a Faculty Member of the Wilmette Institute.

She is a frequent speaker at Bahá’í schools and conferences, on the topics of spirituality, sexuality, and mental health and has worked with individuals, families and groups, focusing on these and the following issues:

  • Post-trauma symptoms, resulting from physical, emotional and sexual abuse
  • Phobias
  • Depression and dysthymia
  • Anxiety
  • Family and Relationship conflicts
  • Gay and lesbian relationships
  • Sexual issues, such as gender confusion, sexual addiction, and sexual confusion resulting from rape or abuse
  • Grief Counseling
  • Adolescent issues

In addition to being a Certified Mediator, Mrs. Radpour has trained in the following therapeutic modalities:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Family systems and strategic family systems therapy
  • Hypnosis and hypnotherapy
  • Transactional Analysis
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy
  • Rapid Trauma Resolution
  • Mindfulness Focus therapy

She prefers to work in person, but does offer telephone consultations which focus on problem-solving, with individuals who are feeling distressed related to situations or circumstances in their current lives.

To view her PowerPoint on Sexuality and the Baha’i Teachings

To read about her talk at the Sexuality and Homosexuality Conference 

To learn more about the books she’s written

To visit her home page

Featured Business:

Jeffrey Reddick

Jeffrey Reddick is a Baha’i filmmaker best known for creating the Final Destination horror film franchise, which spawned four successful sequels as well as comic books and novels. Final Destination centers on a character who has a premonition of a terrible accident that will kill numerous people. While they escape from the scene of the accident before it happens, they are later killed in a series of complex, bizarre accidents.  The series is noteworthy amongst others in the horror genre in that the “villain” of the movies is not the stereotypical slasher, but Death itself whose intent is to claim the lives of those who manage to escape their fates.

Jeffrey is also known for a thriller called Tamara;  the story of an unattractive girl, who is picked on by her peers and returns after her death as a sexy seductress to exact revenge; and the remake of George Romero’s classic, Day of the Dead, where a small Colorado town is overrun by the flesh hungry dead and a small group of survivors try to escape in a last ditch effort to stay alive.

Recently he produced his first 10 minute short, directed with Rainn Wilson, called Good Samaritan which deals with the consequences of not helping someone in need and overcoming your fears to do the right thing. It’s an intense horror short about a man who gets brutally assaulted while witnesses stand by and do nothing. There is some is some scary and intense imagery that may not be appropriate for everyone. But if you want to see a creepy morality tale you can see it here:

 

To see other movies on his YouTube Channel

To read more about him

To read the Slice And Dice Interview: Final Destination Creator Jeffrey Reddick

To read The Gay Mind Behind Final Destination

To read his advice to screenwriters on creating a film franchise

To find his books on Amazon

To find him on Facebook 

To follow him on Twitter

Our Readers Write:

  1. I liked your story and compilation on divorce. What struck me personally as being a little unusual was the following description after the compilation:   “Zia Holte:  This month, we look at the music of Zia Holte – a singer songwriter with a clear, versatile, vocal range from sex kitten to mother next-door. Her voice can be heard on audiobooks, documentaries, jingles, movie trailers, radio, television and videogames.”  I was wondering why Zia’s range needed to include sex kitten. You wrote the book, “The Courage to be Chaste in a Sexual World”. Doesn’t the description “sex kitten” belong in the sexual world? Is it an apt description for a human being?  Just curious.  It did occur to me, of course, that the description wasn’t written by you, and that you had just copied it off somewhere.  (Sarmad Garmroud)

I replied:

Good catch Sarmad!  I’m embarrassed I didn’t catch that myself – was hurrying to get it done, with my mind in several places.  I’ve deleted that whole phrase.  Thanks for bringing it to my attention!

Other comments:

Thx it is beautiful  (Sophie Tekie)

Thank you dear Susan for all you do. The angels of the Abha kingdom so graciously assist us all.  (Loren Ritacca)

Susan, Definitely worth the wait. Thank you.  (Robert Moshrefzadeh)

This is the first time I’ve received your newsletter.  Thank you so much for your service!  (Ladjamaya Green)

Dearest Susan.  Good Grief! I can’t believe just how much you do for us, your readers. I am so thankful for the nature and quality of your work, and that you want to and are able to get it to us.   You are a wonder!  (Patrice Henderson)

 

Thanks to all who write in!  Your encouragement really keeps me going!  

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See you next month!  Hope it’s a month filled with perfection on many levels! 

 

Bahá’í Marriage and Sex

By Janna Denton-Howes

You get the whole chastity thing… but what about sex IN your Baha’i marriage?

You wonder if all sexual acts are “okay”, how sex and spirituality go together and HOW TO stop fighting about sex all the time!

Trust me, you aren’t alone.

Not only have I thought those same questions a million times, but I hear my clients voice them over and over again.

Which is why I’ve decided to share.it.all and offer this free ebook in hopes that it will answer ALL your questions and revitalize your physical intimacy!

26 of your questions are answered, including:

  • “Is sex only for making babies?”
  • “What about masturbation?”
  • “What about porn?”
  • “What about anal sex?”
  • “What about oral sex?”
  • “What about lubrication?”
  • “How do I have an orgasm?”
  • “How do I give my wife an orgasm?”
  • “How often is “enough”?”
  • “Did the Central Figures have sex?”
  • “Can I use a vibrator?”
  • “Can we use birth control?”
  • “How can I get in the “mood” quicker and more often?”
  • “Are we the only ones who are struggling with sex?”
  • “Why does my husband want to have sex all the time?”
  • “We’re so busy! How do we make time?”
  • “I feel disappointed in our sex life”
  • “I feel anxious when my partner initiates, what should I do?”
  • “Can I wear sexy lingerie?”
  • “What about role play?”
  • “Why can’t I have an orgasm by penetration alone?”
  • “What about romance novels and erotica?”
  • “I feel rejected by my wife, what do I do?”
  • “We went to a Counselor and got advice that doesn’t feel right, what should we do?”
  • “What are your book recommendations for learning more about sex?”
  • “I feel so self-conscious of my body, what should I do?”

To get your free copy

Janna Denton-Howes is a Marriage Coach whose passion is to help couples get unstuck and move powerfully towards the vision of true Baha’i marriage.  If you liked this video, you can visit her site; read her blog and watch her other videos.

Abortion and the Bahá’í Faith

 

One of my readers asked:

I have a friend who is not a Bahá’í who is planning on getting an abortion. I am hesitant to get involved in any way and uncertain as to whether I should share the Faith’s view that a soul comes into existence at conception. I do feel very responsible for being aware that an embryo is a spiritual being, which she doesn’t seem to know/comprehend, and not doing anything. Any thoughts on this if you have time?

 I replied:

What a great question! Let’s start by looking at what the Writings say about abortion.

The soul appears at conception so it would be improper to have an abortion after conception has taken place:

It should be pointed out, however, that the Teachings state that the soul appears at conception, and that therefore it would be improper to use such a method, the effect of which would be to produce an abortion after conception has taken place. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 344)

Abortion and surgical operations for the purpose of preventing the birth of unwanted children are forbidden in the Cause unless there are circumstances which justify such actions on medical grounds:

Abortion and surgical operations for the purpose of preventing the birth of unwanted children are forbidden in the Cause unless there are circumstances which justify such actions on medical grounds, in which case the decision, at present, is left to the consciences of those concerned who must carefully weigh the medical advice in the light of the general guidance given in the Teachings. Beyond this nothing has been found in the Writings concerning specific methods or procedures to be used in family planning. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 344)

Abortion to prevent the birth of an unwanted child is strictly forbidden in the Cause.

Abortion merely to prevent the birth of an unwanted child is strictly forbidden in the Cause. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 343)

Circumstances might exist in which such an operation would be justified. In that situation, individual believers are called upon to make such a decision guided by the Bahá’í principles involved, the best professional advice available to them and their own consciences.

It is clear that to have surgical operation merely to avoid unwanted children is not acceptable. However, as in the case of abortion, circumstances might exist in which such an operation would be justified. Individual believers called upon to make such a decision must be guided by the Bahá’í principles involved, the best professional advice available to them and their own consciences. In arriving at a decision the parties must also take into consideration the availability, reliability, and reversibility of all contraceptive methods. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 347)

Terminating a pregnancy following the discovery through amniocentesis of a severely handicapped foetus is a matter left to the judgment of capable professionals in the field, and the consciences of the parents

As to the permissibility of terminating a pregnancy following the discovery through amniocentesis of a severely handicapped foetus, this is a matter left to the judgement of capable professionals in the field, and the consciences of the parents. (Universal House of Justice, 21 May 1992, to an individual)

If a Baha’i becomes pregnant as a result of rape, it is for her to decide whether she should continue or terminate the pregnancy, and no pressure should be brought on her by Baha’i Institutions to marry:

One of the most heinous of sexual offences is the crime of rape. When a believer is a victim, she is entitled to the loving aid and support of the members of her community, and she is free to initiate action against the perpetrator under the law of the land should she wish to do so. If she becomes pregnant as a consequence of this assault, no pressure should be brought upon her by the Bahá’í institutions to marry. As to whether she should continue or terminate the pregnancy, it is for her to decide on the course of action she should follow, taking into consideration medical and other relevant factors, and in the light of the Bahá’í Teachings. If she gives birth to a child as a result of the rape, it is left to her discretion whether to seek financial support for the maintenance of the child from the father; however, his claim to any parental rights would, under Bahá’í law, be called into question, in view of the circumstances. (The Universal House of Justice, 1992, Violence and Sexual Abuse of Women and Children)

At present, the House of Justice does not intend to legislate on this very delicate issue, so it’s left to the consciences of those concerned, who must carefully weigh medical advice in light of the general guidance in the Baha’i Writings:

Legislation on this matter has been left to the Universal House of Justice. At the present time, however, the House of Justice does not intend to legislate on this very delicate issue, and therefore it is left to the consciences of those concerned who must carefully weigh the medical advice in the light of the general guidance given in the teachings. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 343)

It would be unacceptable for a Bahá’í doctor to advocate abortion as a method of birth control and set up a clinic for that purpose:

All Bahá’ís are subject to Bahá’í law and Bahá’í standards. It would clearly be unacceptable for a Bahá’í doctor to advocate abortion as a method of birth control and set up a clinic for that purpose, or for a Bahá’í psychiatrist to publicly advocate sexual intercourse before marriage. (The Universal House of Justice, 1992 Dec 10, Issues Related to Study Compilation)

Knowing all of this, of course you’d want to protect the life of the unborn child, and perhaps even save your friend from being considered a murderer in the eyes of God!

Keeping silent on this topic, however, might be one of the biggest tests of your life!

Not everything that a man knoweth can be disclosed, nor can everything that he can disclose be regarded as timely, nor can every timely utterance be considered as suited to the capacity of those who hear it. (Abdu’l-Baha, Selections from the Writings of Abdu’l-Baha, p. 268)

Rather than teaching your friend about the rules and regulations, it’s much better to fan the spark of faith with the love of God:

The Process of educating people of different customs and backgrounds must be done with the greatest patience and understanding, and rules and regulations not imposed upon them, except where a rock-bottom essential is in question. He feels sure that your Assembly is capable of carrying on its work in this spirit, and of fanning the hears to flame through the fire of the love of God, rather than putting out the first sparks with buckets, full of administrative information and regulations. (Shoghi Effendi, Lights of Guidance, p. 78)

As with everything in the Faith, one topic cannot be examined without understanding a LOT of other principles, which isn’t always possible or desirable for a seeker without giving them spiritual indigestion!

You ask about ’spiritual indigestion’: Bahá’ís should seek to be many-sided, normal and well-balanced, mentally and spiritually. We must not give the impression of being fanatics but at the same time we must live up to our principles. (Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 112)

For example, Farzin Aghdasi gave a course for the Association for Baha’i Studies in Southern Africa (April-June 2000) on Reproductive Health, Abortion, Sacredness of Life, and Women’s Choice, in which she examined this topic from 33 following perspectives:

  • History of oppression against women
  • Societal patterns that would imprison women at home & abandon them to chores including child rearing
  • Religious support for mistreatment of women
  • Neglected condition of women’s health issues
  • Irresponsible male behaviour towards pregnancy, and maintenance of family
  • Consequences of sexual revolution, and unwanted pregnancies
  • Asserting women’s rights not to become victims vs. a licence for promiscuity or carelessness
  • Teenage pregnancy
  • Illegal, back street abortions
  • Timing of the appearance of the soul
  • Debates around when to consider the foetus as a separate individual
  • Viability of an independent life, and the first tri-mester
  • The potential for growth, and the definition of the individual
  • The right to life, and its limits
  • The role of education, and availability of counselling to women
  • Sex education before puberty
  • Moral education and abstention, vs. practical safe-sex lessons
  • The roles of the family and the school system
  • Building character and pride in nobility
  • Family planning: education, the tools and support system
  • Birth control: avoiding pregnancy vs. early termination
  • Mechanical, chemical and surgical tools for birth control
  • Social support systems for untimely pregnancy
  • Dealing with unwanted children
  • Adoption
  • African community practices that support social security
  • Abortion in rape cases
  • The unhealthy outcome of a politically polarized debate
  • Pure motives and an intelligent search for the solutions
  • The role of consultation
  • Finding pragmatic solutions to difficult situations
  • Strengthening Baha’i Assemblies to seek solutions within cultural context
  • A statement to the South African Government as part of the public debate on termination of pregnancy act.

This shows that the topic of abortion is a complex topic, which is probably why the House doesn’t want to legislate on this topic just yet. First we have to deal with the roots of the problem!

Another thing to consider, is that as a non-Bahá’í, she is not bound by the laws, because she hasn’t accepted Bahá’u’lláh’s authority. In a letter written by the House of Justice regarding a gay couple who wanted to declare, we read:

If persons involved in homosexual relationships express an interest in the Faith, they should not be instructed by Bahá’í institutions to separate so that they may enroll in the Bahá’í community, for this action by any institution may conflict with civil law. The Bahá’í position should be patiently explained to such persons, who should also be given to understand that although in their hearts they may accept Baha’u’llah, they cannot join the Bahá’í community in the current condition of their relationship. They will then be free to draw their own conclusions and act accordingly. Within this context, the question you pose about the possibility of the removal of administrative rights should, therefore, not arise. (Universal House of Justice, 5 March 1999 to an individual)

What this suggests to me is that even if people want to become Bahá’ís, (which your friend does not yet), if they know the law and don’t want to abide by it, it’s better that they not declare, so that they can continue living a life outside the law.

Our job as individuals is to be loving and forgiving:

In their relationships with one another individual believers should be loving and forgiving, overlooking one another’s faults for the sake of God, but the Spiritual Assemblies are the upholders of the law of God. They are embryonic Houses of Justice. The education of a child requires both love and discipline; so also does the education of believers and the education of a community. One of the failings of Bahá’ís, however, is to confuse these two roles, individuals behaving like little Spiritual Assemblies, and Spiritual Assemblies forgetting that they must exercise justice. (The Universal House of Justice, Messages 1963 to 1986, p. 499)

Even Bahá’í institutions in this situation, would be required to be one of education, encouragement, assistance and counsel:

The institutions of the Faith … do not pry into the personal lives of individuals. Nor are they vindictive and judgmental, eager to punish those who fall short of the Bahá’í standard. Except in extreme cases of blatant and flagrant disregard for the law that could potentially harm the Cause and may require them to administer sanctions, their attention is focused on encouragement, assistance, counsel, and education. (Universal House of Justice to an individual, 19 April 2013)

You might find it helpful to read another Bahá’í author on this topic:

One Bahá’ís Approach – Abortion

Finally, I’d like to end with a Baha’i Statement on Termination of Pregnancy, submitted by the National Spiritual Assembly of the Baha’is of South Africa in response to the call by the Parliament of South Africa for public submissions prior to legislative action, which might give some other ideas:

The subject of wilful termination of pregnancy has been a controversial subject of great importance to many societies. Its many aspects have been discussed, argued, and debated with great conviction by many people in the last two decades. Despite much soul searching and sincere efforts many societies who have already legislated on this subject still find themselves with an unhappy state of affairs. Whatever the merits of these arguments on either side of the issue may have been, one thing is clear to the unbiased observer, namely that it has been a divisive subject. The Baha’i teachings offer a different and unified approach.

The primary purpose here is not to prescribe a specific course of action, but rather to present a universal framework, and to elaborate on those principles that must guide our collective search for a wise and just solution.

The fundamental Baha’i teaching is the oneness of mankind. This is the principle which is the pivot round which all the Teachings of Baha’u’llah, the prophet-founder of the Baha’i Faith, revolve. It has widespread implications, which affect and remould all dimensions of human activity. It calls for a fundamental change in the manner in which people relate to each other, and the eradication of those age-old practices which deny the intrinsic human right of every individual to be treated with consideration and respect.

The Baha’i sacred texts affirm the essential nobility of all human beings irrespective of colour, class, creed, gender or age. Each individual member of human race is a trust of the whole. “Nobel have I created thee, yet thou hast abased thyself. Rise then unto that for which thou wast created,” are the revealed words written by Baha’u’llah. The sources of this nobility are the God-given talents, capacities and potentialities in each one of us. These endowments which distinguish the human race from all other forms of life are summed up in what is known as the human spirit.

The human spirit, or soul, is not confined to certain individual members of the species. It is the essential characteristic of all humans, much the same as heat is an essential quality of fire, or growth is the inseparable quality of the vegetable kingdom. The seed of a plant or a tree has all the attributes of the tree in a concealed form. In like manner a fertilised human egg has all the potentialities and attributes of man albeit in a concealed form. The human soul of an individual therefore comes to existence at the moment of conception. For this reason alone the practice of deliberate termination of pregnancy cannot be regarded as a routine solution for family planning.

While the soul is created at the moment of conception, it will continue to acquire perfections in this life and in the world beyond.

Recognition of this cardinal principle would determine our attitude towards human embryo. To treat either the embryo or the foetus as anything other than a human is to deny its latent potentialities. To consider a properly fertilised human egg as merely a biochemical object, to be disposed of at will, is no different than to reduce our own humanity to a clump of biochemical material in a sack made of skin, and devoid of all meaning or purpose.

Equally, the interpretation of embryo as a part of a woman’s own body, or determination of the exact age at which foetus becomes independently viable is to miss the point about the ultimate potential of a being who, for a while, is dependent on the good will of another person – the mother – whose unique privilege it is to extend such a gift of love, as life itself.

Considerations such as this make it abundantly clear that the resolution of these complex social problems does not reside in a mere code of legal practice. The social forces that demand the right of women to ask for abortion need to be addressed in an integrated and wholesome fashion.

The Baha’i Faith recognises the natural existence and the value of the sexual impulse, but it also believes in its regulation. The proper use of the sex instinct is the natural right of every individual, and it is precisely for this very purpose that the institution of marriage has been established and is regarded as a fortress for well being. The sexual expression is therefore confined between lawfully married couples. Observance of chastity before and fidelity during marriage therefore should be an integral part of one’s moral upbringing.

Within the family also there are definite relationships that define the role of its members. In this context the Baha’i Faith categorically declares the equality of men and women. All decisions should be arrived at as a result of a frank, free and loving consultative process within the family. Specifically the act of procreation must enjoy the consent of both husband and wife. In this aspect of the marital relationship, as in all others, mutual consideration and respect should apply. In view of the greater responsibilities of women, who not only will have to bear the child for 9 months, but who also must act as the first teacher of that child a greater measure of say must be accorded her in deciding when to fall pregnant.

The supreme role of education in this matter, as in so many other areas relevant to a developing society is abundantly clear.

Effective means of family planning, and provision of reliable methods of contraceptives should be encouraged. Those contraceptive methods that function by destroying the fertilised egg clearly vitiate against the principle of sanctity of the life of the embryo.

If the social support structures are in place, then the practice of abortion for the sole purpose of getting rid of unwanted children and without any extenuating circumstances is unacceptable to conscientious people.

As is the case with most matters of the law, such exceptional circumstances will always exist and should be catered for. One obvious case in question is where medical opinion determines that there are serious risks to the health of either the child or the mother, should pregnancy be allowed to continue. Another case is when the mother had no choice in the decision to conceive, and was a victim of rape, either as a result of violence or statutory grounds of being under legal age. In such circumstances the supportive attitude of the family, and the society will play an important role in making the decision to opt for abortion or to continue with the natural course of pregnancy, a decision which must ultimately rest with the mother. If after all the required counselling, and consideration of all the physical, medical, emotional, social and financial considerations, and the recognition of the potentials of the unborn child, the mother still opts for abortion, then the society must recognise her right not to be victimised. There may well exist other exceptional circumstances that would warrant the deliberate termination of pregnancy.

In summary, the Baha’i community, in its earnestness to contribute to the development process, wishes to stress that all those concerned with setting the human affairs aright would do well to first identify those salient spiritual principles that operate at the root of social issues. If these principles are used to guide our decisions then the outcome will be both enduring and beneficial to all segments of the society.

Of course, all of this is just my personal opinion, but hope it gives you something to think about! Let me know if I can be of further assistance!