We must never dwell too much on the attitudes and feelings of our fellow-believers towards us. What is most important is to foster love and harmony and ignore any rebuffs we may receive; in this way the weakness of human nature and any peculiarity or attitude of any particular person is not magnified, but pales into insignificance in comparison with our joint service to the Faith we all love. (Shoghi Effendi, Bahá’í Life, p. 16)
It is so easy for me to go to a place of feeling hurt, even when no offence was meant. This is a big test for me right now, and it comes from a place of not believing in my nobility and not believing I’m lovable. This false belief, put on the hamster wheel in my mind, and becomes so magnified it won’t let anything positive in, enables me to put up walls between me and others before I even know I’m doing it. Sometimes it feels like the very air I breathe, the ocean I’m swimming in. It would be like asking a bird to recognize the air or a whale to recognize the ocean.
So this quote gives me some concrete steps I can take to overcome this tenancy:
- Stop dwelling on the attitudes and feelings of others
- Focus on bringing love and harmony
- Ignore any rebuffs
- Continue to serve together
Easier said than done, perhaps, but at least I know where to start, and I am grateful!
What jumped out for you as you read today’s meditation? I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!
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