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Feeling Hurt

We must never dwell too much on the attitudes and feelings of our fellow-believers towards us. What is most important is to foster love and harmony and ignore any rebuffs we may receive; in this way the weakness of human nature and any peculiarity or attitude of any particular person is not magnified, but pales into insignificance in com­parison with our joint service to the Faith we all love.  (Shoghi Effendi, Bahá’í  Life, p. 16)

It is so easy for me to go to a place of feeling hurt, even when no offence was meant.  This is a big test for me right now, and it comes from a place of not believing in my nobility and not believing I’m lovable.  This false belief, put on the hamster wheel in my mind, and becomes so magnified it won’t let anything positive in, enables me to put up walls between me and others before I even know I’m doing it.  Sometimes it feels like the very air I breathe, the ocean I’m swimming in.  It would be like asking a bird to recognize the air or a whale to recognize the ocean.

So this quote gives me some concrete steps I can take to overcome this tenancy:

  • Stop dwelling on the attitudes and feelings of others
  • Focus on bringing love and harmony
  • Ignore any rebuffs
  • Continue to serve together

Easier said than done, perhaps, but at least I know where to start, and I am grateful!

 What jumped out for you as you read today’s meditation?  I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!

If you liked this meditation, you might also like my book Learning How to Forgive

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The Words We Speak 

Verily I say, the tongue is for mentioning what is good, defile it not with unseemly talk. God hath forgiven what is past. Henceforward everyone should utter that which is meet and seemly, and should refrain from slander, abuse and whatever causeth sadness in men.  (Baha’u’llah, The Kitab-i-Aqdas, p. 182)

We live in a society that glorifies gossip and is steeped in negativity.  I’m working to eliminate these behaviors in my life.  The other morning, one of my neighbors was complaining about the weather (as Canadians love to do) and to find a connection with him, I agreed.  It was a dreary, icy, slippery day.  But then I caught myself and remembered that I didn’t want to connect with people that way anymore, so I added “but I’ve decided to have a good day anyway.”  That felt a lot better.

We’ve been asked by the House of Justice to find ways to elevate conversations and I think this is the recipe for overcoming mentioning the faults in people or events.  I love the idea that God has forgiven what is past.  If I’m holding on to a resentment against someone who God has already forgiven, why can’t I?  The world will indeed become a rose garden if we can uplift the hearts of men.

Resolving to forgive easily and speak only positive things, I am grateful.

What jumped out for you as you read today’s meditation?  I’d love it if you would share so we can all expand our knowledge of the Writings!

If you liked this meditation, you might also like my book Learning How to Forgive

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