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By a Reader of this Blog who Wishes to Remain Anonymous

One of my clients, inspired by the Codependent Checklist went through the list, forgave himself and then asked God to forgive him for the issues he identified with, asking for the virtue he wanted instead.  We both agreed it would be helpful to share this process with others who might be inspired to do it for themselves.

Read it over once, and if it resonates with you, take the time to read each statement out loud for yourself, to have the greatest effect.

Caretaking

  • Please God, forgive me for thinking and feeling other people`s feelings, actions, choices, wants, needs, wellbeing, lack of wellbeing and ultimate destiny. Please help me to detach and let go of all these emotions.  I know you are there to take care of every one of us.  Please bless me with inner eyes so I can look at my inner and outer being and keep improving and learning and progressing in all aspects of my life, and can serve people with full detachment.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling anxiety and guilt when other people have problems. I completely surrender myself to you, and have realized that you are there to take care of others and my problems. O my God have mercy on me and let me drink a cup of your divine happiness which is from inside me and permanent.
  • O my God, please forgive me for anticipating other people`s needs. Please give me the wisdom to do things according to your priority and your requirements of every situation.
  • Please God, forgive me for finding myself saying yes when I mean no; doing things I don’t really want to be doing; doing more than my fair share of the work and doing things other people are capable of doing themselves. O my God help me let go of this wrong thinking that this is the kind of service you have in mind for me and help me to understand Your reality.  Please bless me with the power so that I can be my genuine self in all situations and can protect my respect and peace.
  • O my Master, please forgive me for trying to please others instead of myself and You. Help me to understand the actual meaning of this quote “the more you make others happy the more your happiness increases”.  Help me to realize that it is totally my responsibility to keep myself happy and my happiness is totally independent of everything except You and that it comes from inside me.
  • O my Beloved, please forgive me for finding it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others, rather than injustices done to me. By your wisdom I now know that every problem can be solved by keeping my mind calm and composed.  Bless me with utter power to handle every situation of injustice with Your support and guidance, realizing that everything passes.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling safest when giving to others. Please detach me from this emotion and help me to know I am safe because You are here to look after me and I have no fear now.  Bless and rejoice me with your utter happiness.
  • O my God, please forgive me for feeling insecure and guilty when someone gives things to me. Please bless me with the wisdom so I can identify when it is right to take something and how, so I feel happy and thankful instead of feeling insecure.
  • Please God, forgive me for finding myself attracted to needy people. Please help me in letting go of these emotions. I have realized now that there is only one thing where I should feel attracted towards, which is You, My Lord.  If I do something for someone who is needy, bless me with wisdom so that I can do it with full detachment, pleasing only You.
  • Please God, forgive me for abandoning my routine to respond to or do something for somebody else. Please bless me with the firmness, clarity and wisdom to prioritize tasks and act according to Your will and not the will of others.
  • Please God, forgive me for over-committing myself. Please help me do the things which are most important and make a proper balance in my life.
  • O my Master, please forgive me for feeling harried and pressured. Please help me to let go of these emotions. Bless me with the feeling of complete freedom and fearlessness.
  • O my Beloved, please forgive me for believing deep inside that other people are somehow responsible for me. Now I know that my destiny is completely independent from anyone else`s deeds or thinking, please bless me with the strength to take responsibility for all my failures, the wisdom to learn from them and the detachment to let them go forever.
  • O my Lord, please forgive me for blaming others for the spot I am in now. I know it was for my learning and benefit, and trust that miracles are waiting for me through your help.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling angry, victimized, unappreciated and used. Please help me in letting go of these emotions forever.  O my Master, please fill my heart with utter motivation and concentration so that I can achieve my goals and keep me detached from everything except You.  Please let me be always filled with full presence and awareness, whenever the requirement of me is to be genuine.
  • Please God, forgive me for worrying when other people become impatient or angry with me for all the preceding characteristics. Please let these emotions go forever and blow my soul with your immortal love, and all good virtues.

Self-Worth

  • Please God, forgive me for being upset about coming from a troubled, repressed and dysfunctional family. Please help me realize that I had no control over my birthplace.  It was your decision and you are the one who thinks of my betterment unconditionally.  Help me to remember there might be some wisdom behind it, and give me the power to free myself from all negativity, and realize that I can achieve my all goals with Your help.
  • Please God, forgive me for blaming myself for everything. Please help me let go of these emotions.  Help me so I can look at myself through your eyes and can realize that only You are perfect and You love us even with our imperfections.
  • Please God, forgive me for picking on myself for everything, including the way I think, feel, look, act and behave. Please help me with the wisdom to  release myself completely, and be myself, comfortable in my own skin in all places and situations.
  • Please God, forgive me for getting angry, defensive, self-righteous, and indignant when others blame and criticize me for something I regularly do to myself. Please bless me with spiritual eyes so I can learn from everyone without being affected and without being judgmental.
  • Please God, forgive me for getting depressed from a lack of compliments and praise. Please make me realize that to be approved by you should be my aim always, with a practical approach towards the world also.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling different from the rest of the world. Please make me realize that we all are the flowers of same garden.
  • O my Almighty, please forgive me for thinking I am not quite good enough. Please bless me with the utter faith in your powers and capacity which you have gifted to all of us, so I can keep myself motivated, always.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling guilty about spending money on myself or doing unnecessary or fun things for myself. Please help me let go of this self-hatred, so I can start loving You, myself and others.
  • Please God, forgive me for fearing rejection. Please make me realize that rejection teaches us a lot and gives us space to learn and grow more and more.  Please bless me with the right attitude to handle rejections.
  • O my God, please forgive me for taking things personally. Please help me to be detached from these things, and please attach me to You so that I never forget Your presence in my life.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling victimized by sexual, physical, emotional abuse, neglect, abandonment and alcoholism. Please help me let go of this whole past and all the emotions that came with it.  Please give me the power to forgive and let go, so I can focus on the present and on the good things that are of You.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling like a victim. Please make me realize that if You are with me, everything is still possible, and there is nothing that can’t be overcome through Your help.
  • Please God, forgive me for telling myself that I can’t do anything right. Please make me realize that it is OK to make mistakes.  Please God, give me a learning attitude and bless me with the never-giving-up attitude so I can do things with as much perfection as each situation requires.
  • Please God, forgive me for being afraid of making mistakes. Please make me fearless from everything except fear of You, which is out of love.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I have a tough time making decisions. Please bless me with a strong decision power, and the courage to follow and respect my decisions.
  • Please God, forgive me for expecting myself to do everything perfectly. Please make me realize that it is OK to make mistakes and learn from them. Please give me the power to take chances with full faith and confidence of Your help.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I can’t get anything done to my satisfaction. Please make me realize who I am and what I want, and help my actions align with Your will.
  • Please God, forgive me for having a lot of “shoulds’ in my life. Please give me the spirit and courage to listen and do what my heart says.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling a lot of guilt. Please blow the air of your love and motivation and happiness in my lungs.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling ashamed of who I am. Please make me feel blessed and proud on my identity, realizing that I am your best (human) creation.
  • Please God, forgive me for thinking my life isn`t worth living. Please give me the power to make my life most significant; cheerful and joyous, by progressing spiritually as well as materially.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to help other people live their lives instead of living mine. Please give me the power to focus on my improvement, realizing that You are there to help me and other people so I don’t have to.
  • Please God, forgive me for getting artificial feelings of self-worth from helping others. Please make me realize that we are your loved ones so we are priceless pears for You and particles of dust in front of You.
  • Please God, forgive me for having strong feelings of low self-worth, embarrassment and failure from other people’s failures and problem. Please help me to let go of these emotions permanently, my God, and ignite a lamp of self-respect and humility in my heart.
  • Please God, forgive me for believing I don’t deserve good things and happiness. Please make me realize that I am Your son and deserve everything which You have given to all of us.  Help me to have a positive attitude instead of coming from a place of ego because of this thought.
  • Please God, forgive me for wishing other people would like and love me. Please God, be my Best Lover and the goal of all my desires.
  • Please God, forgive me for believing other people couldn’t possibly like and love me. Please make me realize that You love me unconditionally, and it is not possible to always be loved by everyone.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to prove I am good enough for other people. Please make a genuine person, detached from what others think about me.
  • Please God, forgive me for settling for being needed. Please make me free from these emotions and bless me with your unconditional love.

Depression

  • Please God, forgive me for pushing all thoughts and feelings out of my awareness because of fear and guilt. Please help me take responsibility for my thoughts and feelings and act in ways that please only You.
  • Please God, forgive me for being afraid to let myself be who you created me to be. It’s been such a waste of my skills, talents and capacities.  Please help me reclaim my nobility.
  • Please God, forgive me for appearing rigid and controlled. Please make my soul a free bird in your kingdom.

Obsession

  • Please God, forgive me for thinking and talking a lot about other people. Please detach my thoughts from all things which are useless.  Please help me realize that I am not the controller, You are!, so I can focus on You and myself and can improve.
  • Please God, forgive me for losing sleep over other people’s problems or behavior. Please make me realize that I can`t control their thinking or reactions and I am totally free from them because I am in Your protection.
  • Please God, forgive me for worrying. I surrender all my problems to You with full faith, and now I am happy and fearless.
  • Please God, forgive me for never finding answers. Please give me the power and guts to identify your hints and intuition and follow them with utter faith.
  • Please God, forgive me for checking on people. Please make my soul detached from everything except You.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to catch people in acts of misbehavior. Please shift all my focus and energies towards positivity.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling unable to quit talking, thinking and worrying about other people or their problems. Please make me realize that You are there to take care of everyone, and let me detach my thoughts and emotions from this worry.
  • Please God, forgive me for abandoning my routine because I am so upset about somebody or something. Please bless me with a very strong mind and willpower to keep moving in service to Your Cause.
  • Please God, forgive me for focusing all my energy on other people and their problems. Please help me to let go of these emotions.  O Lord refresh my soul with your divine love, and bring all my focus on my deeds and not on the deeds of others.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I never have any energy. Please bless me with your attributes of love, happiness, positive energy and enthusiasm etc.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I can’t get things done. Please my God, bless me with utter faith in Your powers guiding my efforts.

Denial

  • Please God, forgive me for telling myself things will be better tomorrow. Please give me the power to take actions and have faith that you are with me.
  • Please God, forgive me for stay busy so I don’t have to think about things. Please God, bless me with the power of taking responsibility for all my actions.
  • Please God, forgive me for getting confused. Please remove all my confusion and bless me with utter faith and clarity of thoughts so I can set and achieve goals with Your help.
  • Please God, forgive me for lying to myself. Please bless me with utter honesty with myself and You and others.
  • Please God, forgive me for spending money compulsively. Please make me sensible and mature.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I feel like I am going crazy. Please give sense to my life and bless me with the capacity to understand reality.

Dependency

  • Please God, forgive me for not feeling happy, content, or peaceful with myself. Please awaken my soul with Your love.
  • Please God, forgive me for looking for happiness outside myself. Please help me feel infinite happiness in my inner being.
  • Please God, forgive me for latching onto whoever or whatever I think can provide me with happiness. Please God, give me divine eyes so I can see, love and respect myself through Your eyes.
  • Please God, forgive me for feel terribly threatened by the loss of anything or person who I think is responsible for my happiness. Please make me realize that source of utter happiness is only You.
  • Please God, forgive me for desperately seeking love and approval from others. Please let my only aim be to seek love and approval from You, my God.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to prove I am good enough to be loved. Please help me let go of all these thoughts.  Please help me to be the self You created me to be.
  • Please God, forgive me for not taking the time to figure out if I love or like other people. Please God give me the wisdom to do so.
  • Please God, forgive me for centering my life around other people and their needs and wants. Please bless me with the wisdom to focus on my life, without being selfish.
  • Please God, forgive me for looking to relationships to provide all my good feelings. Please be my source of all good feelings, so I can pass it on to others.
  • Please God, forgive me for losing interest in my own life when I love others. Please make me realize that I have to look at myself as well.
  • Please God, forgive me for worrying that other people will leave me. Please give me the power to treat everyone with love and patience, being detached from their opinion of me.
  • Please God, forgive me for not believing that I can take care of myself. Please make me realize that You are with me and with Your help, everything is possible.
  • Please God, forgive me for staying in relationships that don’t work. Please give me the power to let them go.
  • Please God, forgive me for tolerating abuse to keep people loving me. Please bless me with the wisdom to protect my self-respect.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling trapped in relationships. Please make me detached and give power to be myself.
  • Please God, forgive me for leaving bad relationships and forming new ones that didn’t work either. Please make me wise to manage relationships and friendships.
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering if I will ever find love in this world. Please let this emotion go and make me realize that Your infinite love is always there for me and finding someone to love will automatically happen in the right time and place.
  • Please God, forgive me for not saying what i mean. Please give me the power to express my point of view honestly and confidently.
  • Please God, forgive me for not meaning what i say. Please give me the firmness to say what I mean.
  • Please God, forgive me for not knowing what I mean. Please give me the wisdom to realize what I mean and say it fearlessly.
  • Please God, forgive me for not taking myself seriously. Please give me the power to look at me  through Your eyes so I can respect and love myself.
  • Please God, forgive me for thinking other people don’t take me seriously. Please make me wise, mature and sensible, and detached from what other people think.
  • Please God, forgive me for taking myself too seriously. Please make me realize that You are there to take care of me, so I can be calm, happy, focused and energetic.
  • Please God, forgive me for asking for what I want and need indirectly though sighing. Please give me the courage to express myself with full faith.
  • Please God, forgive me for finding it difficult to get to the point. Please make me calm and wise.
  • Please God, forgive me for not being sure what the point is. Please make me wise and sensible enough.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to say what I think will please other people. Please make me speak from my original self in all circumstances.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to say what I think will provoke other people. Please make me sensible enough to understand the context and situation.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to say what I hope will make other people do what I want them to do. Please bless me with honesty.
  • Please God, forgive me for eliminating the word No from my vocabulary. Please give me the wisdom and courage to say it when required.
  • Please God, forgive me for talking about other people. Please be my focus and bless me with the wisdom to do all my tasks with honesty.
  • Please God, forgive me for believing my opinions don’t matter. Please make me genuine and  wise so I can express myself and be detached whether my opinion will be accepted or not.
  • Please God, forgive me for waiting to express my opinions until I know other people’s opinions. Please give me the confidence to say something if I feel  I have something worth saying.
  • Please God, forgive me for lying to protect and cover up for people I love. Please make me truthful and give the wisdom how to speak truth wisely.
  • Please God, forgive me for lying to protect myself. Please give me the courage to be honest and truthful.
  • Please God, forgive me for having a difficult time expressing my emotions honestly, openly and appropriately. Please bless me with wisdom and clarity of thoughts.
  • Please God, forgive me for thinking most of what I have to say is unimportant. Please ignite Your love in my heart so I can love and respect myself and others and can understand my importance.
  • Please God, forgive me for talking in cynical, self-degrading or hostile ways. Please awaken my self-respect, my Lord.
  • Please God, forgive me for apologizing for bothering people. Please make me feel worthy and respectable.

Boundaries

  • Please God, forgive me for gradually increasing my tolerance until I can tolerate and do things I said I never would. Please make me wise, firm and courageous to stop doing things You don’t want me to do.
  • Please God, forgive me for letting others hurt me. Please make me unaffected by their negative behavior and remain open and receptive for positive interactions.
  • Please God, forgive me for keep letting people hurt me. Please make me immune enough with Your love and strong enough to take action if required
  • Please God, forgive me for wondering why I hurt so badly. Please protect me, my God, with your love. so no one can hurt me.

Trust

  • Please God, forgive me for not trusting myself. Please make me believe in my powers and capacities given by You.
  • Please God, forgive me for not trusting my feelings. Please connect me with You and myself again and give me the wisdom to recognize and follow my inner voice which is from You.
  • Please God, forgive me for not trusting my decisions. Pease reignite my faith in Your miracles and in myself.
  • Please God, forgive me for trying to trust untrustworthy people. Please make me wise enough to recognize them and be aware.

Anger

  • Please God, forgive me for getting afraid of my own anger. Please give my anger a proper direction.
  • Please God, forgive me for being frightened of other people’s anger. Please make me fearless and courageous.
  • Please God, forgive me for thinking people will go away if anger enters the picture. Please give me the wisdom to do things smartly and humbly if required.
  • Please God, forgive me for blaming other people for making me feel angry. Please free me from hanging on to other people’s feelings and emotions.
  • Please God, forgive me for being afraid to make other people feel angry. Please give me the courage to express myself positively and sensibly.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling controlled by other people’s anger. Please free  me from being influenced by other people’s emotions.
  • Please God, forgive me for repressing my angry feelings. Please give me the wisdom to express them in a much wiser manner.
  • Please God, forgive me for being ashamed for feeling angry. Please make me realize that anger is a natural emotion.  Please give me the strength to control and channel it properly.
  • Please God, forgive me for placing guilt and shame on myself for feeling angry. Please let these emotions go, and make me happy and joyous.

Other:

  • Please God, forgive me for being extremely irresponsible. Please make me sensibly responsible.
  • Please God, forgive me for becoming a martyr, sacrificing my happiness and that of others for causes that don’t require sacrifice. Please give me the wisdom to be sensible and genuine so I can stop doing that.
  • Please God, forgive me for finding it difficult to feel close to people. Please open my heart, mind and soul totally, and let me embrace the world wholeheartedly.
  • Please God, forgive me for finding it difficult to have fun and be spontaneous. Please make me spontaneous and blow my soul with your divine love.
  • Please God, forgive me for vacillating in decisions and emotions. Please make me stable and composed.
  • Please God, forgive me for staying loyal to my compulsions and people even when it hurts. Please make me flexible when required.
  • Please God, forgive me for being ashamed about family, personal or relationship problems. Please help me let go of these emotions and give me the courage to deal with them with love and wisdom.
  • Please God, forgive me for being confused about the nature of my problems. Please show me the right path.
  • Please God, forgive me for becoming withdrawn and isolated. Please open my heart and soul and let your infinite love and happiness flow through me.
  • Please God, forgive me for experiencing a complete loss of daily routine and structure. Please give me the wisdom to reorganize myself.
  • Please God, forgive me for feeling hopeless. Please blow my lungs with utter faith, hope and confidence.

Thank you God for all the ways you’ve forgiven me.  I lay all my affairs in Your hand, trusting You in all my affairs.

 

How has this process been helpful?  Post your comments below.